People don’t always do what they said they were going to do. I am 43 years old and no matter how many meditations, breathing exercises, staying in the now, loving what is practices I put into place, it still bugs the crap out of me when people don’t do what they said they were going to do. How to deal with this? I understand intellectually I must let go of the need to control all outcomes. I must go with the flow and pick up the slack when need be. I must not count on people when they tell me they will take care of something. But see, I hate that. Why shouldn’t I be able to count on people? Especially people who insist they are organized and have it handled. ... Read More about Just Plain Bummed Out
How often do you find yourself saying those words? You have a short temper. “It’s just the way I am.” You are always late. “It’s just the way I am.” You are an introvert or an extrovert. “It’s just the way I am.” You procrastinate yet again. “ It’s just the way I am.” You are super controlling. “It’s just the way I am.” You worry incessantly. “It’s just the way I am” What if I told you that all of those actions/reactions are not the way you are, but the way you choose to be? What if I told you that saying “it’s just the way I am” is another way of saying “I don’t choose to be any different”? ... Read More about "It's just the way I am"
I was with a group of women the other day. We were discussing what we eat for breakfast. There were varying answers, “oatmeal”, “yogurt” and “egg whites” among others. I chimed in, “I eat three eggs every day.” Mouths hung open, they practically gasped. Eggs? The whole egg—even the yolk?! They were horrified. What about cholesterol? Aren’t they bad for you? Somewhere along the line, the incredible edible egg became one of the most maligned foods of the 20th century and for many this bad rap has fallen over into the 21st. It is such a shame. I’ll admit, I believed it too. I didn’t eat eggs for years, decades even. Eggs were bad. There was so much ... Read More about Eggs–More than they're Cracked Up to Be
You are a smart woman. Your life is pretty much put together. Sure, you have some insecurities, some fears in the dark of night--but overall, you are efficient and productive. You are capable and you get things done, whether it is everyday errands, your projects or your community work. When something needs doing, people seek you out. They come to you because of your impeccable track record. When you take something on, it gets star treatment and always impresses …you are that kind of gal. But when it comes to your health, it is a different story. All of the times you put those projects and errands and family obligations at the top of the list--guess where your ... Read More about What's It Gonna Take?
I was wrong. I was wrong. I was wrong. I say it often. I say it easily. I try to embrace it. I have finally gotten to a place where I understand that being wrong is a natural and important part of life. Looking back, I see clearly that I spent a lot of time and energy insisting I was right. I equated being wrong with being weak. As a woman on Wall Street, I thought I had to know everything and if I was wrong, the gig was up. As a mom I thought “all knowing” was part of the job description. This position put me on the defensive---all the time! I was always explaining, avoiding, defending, reasoning or rationalizing my actions. I could justify anything to ... Read More about I was wrong